Tired, grumpy, bratty all describe my behavior the other evening on my way to ladies game night and it continued through-out the whole evening. When I thought about why I was feeling this way, the first thing that came to mind was that feeling of coming down after a high. The high in my case is all the bdsm events/activities, how they make me feel and how I think about it all the time, it can be consuming.
I also realized this was a similar high and crash as before, during and after the holidays. It causes stress, fatigue, unrealistic expectations, financial stress, sadness, inability to be with family or friends, unable to cope with demands. I see it all the time with my clients, friends and family. For 3 month’s people will put themselves under tremendous stress to make the holidays perfect (unrealistic expectations) and forget what it’s really about…being together.
My prescription is to increase the amount of hugs I give out during the holidays. This will benefit me and others. Did you know when hug, we receive a jolt of oxytocin –known as the “love or cuddle” hormone. This hormonal surge helps us bond with the person we are hugging. There is a transfer of positive energy from one human to the other and we feel safer and supported. There are studies that have shown that a twenty second hug reduces the harmful and physical effects of stress, including its impact on your blood pressure and heart rate.
Table play time began with him methodically laying out each of the items he would be using. Draping the the table & floor with plastic. He later told me as he prepared the space he felt a surge of energy throughout his body. I waited in the other room naked, my mind beginning to wonder what was next. He led me to the table, put on a blindfold and had me lie face down. My wrists and ankles were bound and tied to the table.
He began warming up using a paddle and different types of floggers. Then came the hot wax candles that he began dripping all along my back and legs. Each drip stung as it came down and if I hadn’t been restrained I would have jumped off the table after the first few drops. Being restrained/blindfolded also helped me go deeper into the pain. Several days later I could still feel light burning sensations. At some point he placed a wand toy between my legs making me cum. Our play was cut short because of impending visitors so he used his knife tool to remove the dots of wax, which was an interesting sensation.
So happy I got to experience wax play and apparently he enjoyed the creativity of it so much that he wants to get more for another time.
PS it took me several days to write this post and it is completely different than my original thought because real life interfered with my creative flow.